More Debt and Motivation

 

If you’re a member of my Facebook Group, you’ll already know that recently I have been finding my Financial Journey really difficult and am seriously lacking motivation.

I find that nobody ever talks about how being Debt Free is NOT the end of a financial journey but is the start of one. STAYING Debt Free is (in my experience) just as difficult as BECOMING Debt Free.

Unless I am the only person on the planet struggling with this (and I’m pretty sure I’m not!) then I hope this post will be helpful to someone else.

A few months ago, I decided to try and use a credit card sensibly, by buying all of my food using the card, and paying it all off in full. Well, fast forward a month and I now have £1k on the card and not enough money to pay it back in full. Plus, I had Direct Debits to pay and not enough money in the bank to cover them.

So, having learned my lesson, I am now trying to get back on track. These are the 4 things I am doing to help me:

  1. Cut up that Credit Card!

This was the first thing I did once I got my act together. I would love to be one of those people who can use a credit card responsibly, and maybe I will be one day, but at the moment I am not. So, to stop myself getting further back into debt, I cut it up.

  1. Get back to Budgeting.

While I was spending frivolously, I abandoned my budgeting altogether. I have gone back to writing out my fortnightly budget as I feel like this always helps me to see where my money is going, and how much I can spend/save/pay off debt.

  1. Meal Planning!

I normally ALWAYS meal plan, as you can see here: How I meal Plan. 

But with buying so much food and takeaways, I just totally fell off the wagon with meal planning. I KNOW this saves me money, as I have done it consistently for months while paying off my original debt, so I know I can do it again. It saves me time and effort as well as money.

  1. Sharing my mistakes.

It’s really important to me that I don’t keep this kind of thing a secret. For me, not admitting to it means that it’s not really happening, and I can keep getting away with it. I told the members of my Facebook Group that I was struggling and asked for support. I was worried about being a disappointment to them, as they were so supportive during my Debt Free Journey the first time round. But they were amazing, and I needn’t have worried.

 

Hopefully some of these strategies can help you if you find yourself in a similar situation. I know what I need to do, and I am doing it to the best of my ability. I am aiming to be Debt Free (again!) by the end of September.

 

 

 

 

How to Stop Spending When Paying Off your Debt.

 

When I was paying off my debt, it seemed that no matter where I looked, other people around me were buying all the things they wanted, whenever they wanted! Sometimes it really tempted me to splurge, or even worse, to get my credit card out and abandon my Debt Free Journey altogether. Especially as I knew this would continue for 2 years while I was working hard to get out of debt. Nobody has an iron will that lasts for 2 years, so it was inevitable that at some point I would crack!
It was pretty early on that I realised that I had to come up with some ways to avoid that temptation altogether, or I would end up spending more than I had and getting into even more debt.
So, I came up with these 10 rules on what to do to avoid temptation while paying off debt.
Know Your ‘Why’
This is probably the most important thing that you can do while you are paying off your debt. Unless you have a really good reason for doing this, you more than likely won’t be able to stick at it for long.
You may already think that you know your why, but maybe ask yourself what it is about your Why that motivates you to work towards being debt free? For example:
I want to get out of debt so that I have more money. Why do you want more money?
So that I can save it instead of using it to pay off debt. Why do you want to save it?
I want to save money so that I can buy a house. Why do you want to buy a house?
To have financial security…And the questioning continues.
What was originally ‘I want to have more money’ is developed further. Only then will you know your true ‘Why’.
Give yourself some fun money so you don’t feel deprived
Nobody can live without any sort of ‘treat’ long term.  Allow yourself some ‘fun money’. This an amount that you put in your budget every month that you get to spend on what the hell you want. I’m not talking £500 to buy a new armchair though! It’s more like £30 a month to buy a new lipstick, or go to the cinema, or £10 a month to spend on a new book every month.
How much you get to spend every month will be determined by how much your income is, how much debt you have and how quickly you want that debt gone.
If you need help working this out, you’ll need to write a budget. See my post ‘how to pay off debt while on a low income’ for information on how to do this.
Unsubscribe from newsletters or emails from your favourite stores
Personally, I could not cope with seeing all of the sales and offers that were on at my favourite shops. It felt like I couldn’t escape from being sold something, even in the comfort of my own home! So, I unsubscribed from every shop that tempted me, which was pretty much all of them.
As well as unsubscribing to these emails, I also deleted all the payment details that I had stored on all of the places I normally shopped online. From supermarkets (Tesco, I’m looking at you) to Amazon. I deleted all of my payment cards. While that doesn’t stop you from actually visiting the site, it makes checking out and paying for anything significantly more time-consuming. If you are anything like me, that will be enough to make you not bother spending.
Don’t visit the shops!
This is a fairly obvious one, but if you don’t want to spend any money, then don’t go to the places where spending is not only easy, but pretty much encouraged. For some of you (and I speak from experience here!) going to the local Mall or High Street has become part of your weekend routine.
 I used to head to my local Mall, go straight to Starbucks, grab a coffee, then walk around the shops. I’d easily spend upwards of £70 and come away with not much to show for it.
These days I find something else to do, preferably something with no cost attached. In the nicer weather I’ll head out into the garden and potter about, or I’ll take my dog on a nice long walk.
Just find a free activity to replace that Saturday morning routine and save the Mall trips for when you actually NEED something.
Hopefully these tips will help you as much as they helped me. It can be so hard to resist the urge to spend, especially when your friends and family are spending money without worrying about it.
But just keep your eyes on the prize, it’s worth it. I promise!

How to Stay Motivated on your Debt Free Journey.

When people find out that it took 2 years for me to complete my Debt Free Journey, 1 of the most common questions I get asked is ‘How Did You Stay Motivated For 2 Years?’.

The truth is, I wasn’t 100% motivated all of the time. I think motivation is something we have to work on and accept that it wont always be easy.

Find your ‘Why’. 

I would say that for the first 6 months of my Debt Free Journey, I found it quite easy to stay motivated. The novelty hadn’t yet worn off and paying off debt felt great!
I had a very strong list of Why’s

In my experience, keeping your ‘Why’ in mind at all times is really important. It helps to keep you focused and in turn keeps you motivated.

Get Support

Shortly after the 6 month mark, I started to feel deflated. My friends were booking holidays, redecorating their houses and generally doing all the things that I wanted to do but couldn’t afford.
I could have just said ‘Screw it, I’m going on holiday’ but instead, I used this as a lesson in self-discipline and motivation.

It was DIFFICULT! But I carried on. At that time, I joined some Facebook groups dedicated to people paying off debt and following Dave Ramsey’s 7 Baby Steps. These groups really became my lifeline in the following months. In the end, I started my own Facebook group. This has been so helpful for me to stay accountable, complain when I’m feeling sorry for myself, get advice and share tips.

Mark your progress

This isn’t something that I personally did regularly, but I’ve heard that it can help spur a lot of people on. Many people I follow on Instagram (you can find me at www.instagram.com/the_money_freak ) use Debt Free charts to track how much debt they’ve paid off, and how much they have left to pay. You could make your own very easily if you prefer that.

 

Make Plans

When it killed me to see the majority of my money going towards paying off my debt, I made plans for what I was going to do with that money once I was debt free.
I researched holidays, made lists of household furniture that I wanted to buy, and those plans got me through some pretty tough times!

Some other ways you can make plans are to write down how things will change in your life when you become debt free.
Maybe you’ll be able to work part time, or be a stay at home mum, or be able to save money in the bank for the first time in your life (this was and still is my plan). Whatever it is, focus on that and let it motivate you.

The truth of the matter is, you wont be motivated every single day. I had weeks and months where I just carried on my journey towards debt freedom because I knew that I’d kick myself if i gave up. I carried on despite hating it. I moaned to my Facebook group…but I just carried on. The frustrating times where I lacked motivation always passed, and so will yours.

I hope this helps someone who is struggling with motivation like i was,
Till next time,
C.

Debt Free…Now What?

Hi, welcome back to Financial Friend.

As some of you may know if you’ve read my first blog entry My Journey towards Becoming Friends with My Finances. at the start of this year, in February 2018, I became Debt Free.
I had been working on this goal for just over 2 years, and I thought that once I had achieved it, things would be different for me.
It has come as a bit of a shock to realise that actually, this is where the journey towards building wealth gets really difficult.

I’m not sure what I thought was going to happen once I became debt free, but in the back of my mind I think I imagined a luxurious lifestyle, being able to spend whatever and whenever I want.
But the truth is, its not like that at all.

I’m a single mum working full time in retail, therefore I don’t have enough money to have a ‘luxurious lifestyle’ even if I wanted to! I do have more ‘spare’ money now that I’m debt free, but I have to admit that I’ve not really stuck to my budget since becoming debt free either. I know, a shocker!

What worries me more is that I KNOW having an emergency fund of 3 months worth of expenses will stop me getting back into debt. But I seem to have lost all motivation recently.

So I know I need to get back on the money saving wagon, and am going to get strict with myself.
I aim to do this by:

-Restart Meal Planning every week. I always meal planned when I was getting out of debt and I swear it not only saved me money and time, but took the stress out of cooking.

-Write a budget. This is crucial to saving money. It will also help me to see just how much money I could be putting towards savings.

For now, those are my main plans going forward, although I’m sure I’ll add to them as the weeks go on. Stay Tuned,
C.